Do you agree?
7 Unspoken Marriage Rules You Must Follow from womensday.com
1. Don't criticize your partner's parents or friends. You know how it is-your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That's why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband's dearest friends.
2. Tell your spouse about any ex encounters. Whether you get a Facebook friend request or run into an old flame at your kid's soccer game, keeping the news to yourself could backfire, despite having zero feelings for the ex. "If there's nothing to hide, why hide it?"
3. Keep unsolicited advice to yourself. Offer your support, lend your ear, but avoid speaking in an "I know what's best" tone. "We give advice because we're trying to be helpful, but it's seen as criticism when we offer too many corrections."
4. Don't take charge all the time. Whether you fold all the laundry because you don't like how your husband does it or you manage the finances because you don't think he's as careful, you may feel more at ease doing all the work.
5. Don't bring up past arguments. Or at least put a statute of limitations on them. "People repeat ancient disagreements because they haven't resolved the problem." Letting things fester often causes marriages to break down. It's important to address issues as they happen and come to some sort of resolution--agreeing to disagree counts. Leave it there, and respect each other's opinion.
6. Choose your battles, but don't stifle your feelings. There's going to be toothpaste globs here and Post-it notes there; that's human nature. You have to be able to say, this isn't important. Or if it is, speak up. Tell your partner why it bothers you and that you'd like to work on a solution.
7. Don't post private thoughts or photos publicly. You may not want to be tagged in a politically charged rant he starts or he may not want you to share photos of the kids. And you each deserve the other person's respect for those wishes. Discuss the ground rules regarding posting about yourself, as a couple and about the other person.
